I remember, back when I was a kid, my father used to talk to me about how times have changed. He talked about how different people were, back then, and how differently things were done. My father has since passed away; but, as an adult, I can now say that I more clearly understand what he was talking about.
It seems to me that we are lowering our standards and expectations of ourselves, as the generations go by. I look at the kids and young adults, these days, and I am ashamed! I mean, I am utterly embarrassed! We’ve got young men (and women) who show no respect for their elders, children, their community, their fellow man, or themselves. They act unruly and vulgar in public, shaming their parents and ancestors… They sag their pants so low, they can barely walk, let alone run from the cops, chasing them for a crime they “look like” they committed! We’ve got “good-ol’-boy” cops who kill young black men, with no hesitation! I mean, if you’re not showing any self-value or regard for your fellow man, how can you expect anyone else to value your life?! Hell, they probably hunt deer and bears for leisure; what better than to add “threatening black boy” to the list?! …and it almost seems as if we’re asking for trouble. Our young people, these days, are killing themselves, in more ways than shooting each other.
I feel like I know exactly where this downward spiral started, and I think I know how to turn it around… Granted, it’s not going to be easy, and it just may never happen; but, it’s something that needs to be discussed, regardless. Wanna hear my theory? Good! Here goes: It starts with low income families, where parents and guardians have to work around the clock just to keep food on the table and a roof above everyone’s heads. With all of those work hours, how can the parents supervise and raise the children?! Now, we’ve got kids trying to commit crimes to help the family, or just some unsupervised, misguided young people out doing ignorant things for attention… Not like they’re getting any at home. We’ve got “Brenda” having babies at a young age… Hell, mother and child are practically growing up together! All of this has become a pattern, and now this is pretty much what’s expected of black youth (although it’s NOT just black youth that experiences these same hardships).
We need to get back to the way things used to be! We need community togetherness… What ever happened to “it takes a village to raise a child”?! THAT’S what we need! We need to start beating our kids’ asses and stop being so damn sensitive when someone else is willing to beat their asses, for us, when we’re not around! We need to stop being so defensive when someone is telling us about our kids and listen with an open mind! We need to return our focus on teaching humility, responsibility, respect, manners, values, culture……because, these days, all we have are a bunch of dumb-ass kids who become dumb-ass parents to more dumb-ass kids (because dummies can’t teach anything of value), who, together, listen to dumb-ass music on the radio, make dumb-ass decisions, then end up in a bad place… In many cases, that place is a cemetery. **Hey, that rhymed!**
“Rest well, Dad. Your spirit lives strong within your son and daughter.”